This is happening all to often

Once again there is another unarmed black teenager killed at the hands of law enforcement. Once again there are conflicting stories from eye witnesses and law enforcement on what really happened. Once again mothers and fathers are left without answers as to why their child had to be the one taken away. Once again we as a people ask the question why?

These type of situations are happening all too often. Michael Brown lost the right to live. Watching his mother tell the media how hard it was to get him to graduate from high school is heartbreaking. As black people we are all too familar with the blantant and even underlying disrepect we see as a people. It is easy to riot and vandalize but what will that do. I know it is easier for me to say such things since I have never been in the situation of loosing a family as the family of Michael Brown but all the rioting in the world will not bring that loved one back. So what do we do? We play smart. we already know the media will spin the story to sensationalize what they think is important but we as a people need to do the unexpected. Protest but do so peacefully. Ferguson, St. Louis is turning into the riots of the ’60’s. Lets not move back lets move forward!

To the family of Michael Brown, and all those families who have lost their loves ones by the hands of those who have been “trigger happy” my prayers are with you at this time. I hope that the anger and injustice that has been felt will be used in a way that produces real answers because this has to stop.




Summer time ready….

Seems like its been a few weeks since my last post. Between my last post and now I have been going going going. My body said “pump your brakes” Now I am in a space of relaxation and reflection. Te summer time has arrived and I am ready to soak up all the sun.


Stay tuned…….





Watch “SERIES: FIRST” on YouTube


Its the end ofbthe week so I caught up on some facebook surfing and came across a post about a new webseries on youtube called “First” by Issa Rae.  For those who have seen the classic move Love Jones this has been deemed the modern day version.  I saw the first episode and I am ready for episode number 2.

So I’m Single now?

Last night I attended a great fundraising event for an organization I am apart of called The Young Black Women’s Society (great organization!). After all the mixing, mingling and networking  I found myself in the midst of a conversation with a few of the members of the organization and some other attendees. As I walk out of the building I hear one of the women ( we will call her “A”) belt out  “Why I ain’t got no man”  laughter began to follow amongst the ladies. I admittedly laughed myself mainly because of the manner in which she made the statement. I instantly I thought “this is gonna be interesting.” As I stood there listening to the inner working of this conversation I heard A talk about how  she could match her friends up but yet she is still single? This quickly became a very entertaining conversation. Good old fashion girl talk. As the conversation continued   A proceeded to mentioned how she could find each of us a man. I quickly interjected with “I have a boyfriend” Her response “girl you single…i don’t see no ring on that finger” ummm so having a boyfriend means I am single?!

This is not the first time I heard such a reference. For some the idea of being in a committed relationship means nothing until you get married. Why is that? Why can’t pure respect be had for someone with a boyfriend or a girlfriend? What happens when one cheats in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? Does the cheating not matter since they are not married? Call me old fashion because to me one should consider their relationship as more than “nothing” even if they have not walked down the aisle to say “I do.”

What are your thoughts? Does a relationship not equate to anything until you are married?